I was born near the sea and I love it very much. My parents loved
each other very much and still do. They still walk holding their hands.
I grew up in quiet and happy family. We didn't have any alcoholic,
drug-addicted, criminal, suicide, lunatic or defected persons in our
kin. By family tradition everybody has 1 or 2 higher education. There
never was any fight in our family. That is why I grew up a little
bit"other wordily". For a long time I could not learn to be aggressive.
I was very surprised by people's problems. Why don't they just stop
drinking or making problems to themselves?
Sometimes my
father was very strict, but he gave me much freedom. My mother was
kind and dreamy, sometimes too much. I studied easily at school. I
had been studied dance for 5 years. My grandmother loved me very much.
This is the most pleasant memory of my childhood. She is my ideal
of an elderly woman. She had nice figure, good taste, and vivid mind.
My father taught me cooking and my mother taught me sewing. My parents
were engineers. We lived very unpretentiously, even poorly. Almost
everybody lived like that. I finished school and I went to work at
once. I also finished a polytechnic college. I studied exact sciences
easily. I have got married when I was a student. Two months later
my husband was taken to the army for two years. I was expecting a
baby (my daughter Svetlana) already at that moment. It was a very
difficult to live on a $20 per month allowance. But my health has
helped me. I had so much milk that I nursed my daughter and 3 babies
more. I earned for this the same sum as I had earned at the factory.
I was 21 years old.
When my daughter
has grown a little bit older, I returned to my work at a military
design office, continued my studies and played sports. I was in time
for everything, but I didn't have free time for 6 years. We live happily
and peacefully though poorly. I got a higher education and became
a designer. And then Perestroyka began. Military factories were closed
and I among other people was fired. My diploma became absolutely useless.
That was turning point of my life. My relations with my husband had
become bad, so we divorced. It was a stupid divorce at the age of
27. We were short of patience and experience. Since 19, I began to
notice repeating subjects in my life. I wanted to understand its rules.
I began serious studies of astrology and psychology after all these
stormy events. More than that, I had to look for a new profession.
As Russian people say:"There would be no happiness if misfortune
would not help".
During these
9 years I took an external degree at Russian Astrological Academy,
finished University (psychology faculty) and Moscow Gestalt-Institute
(Gestalt-therapy). This part of my life was very tense, but it was
useful for me. Against my will, my life resembled a marathon very
often. But I want to tell that I remained optimistic and now I love
life even more. Often I was happy, I succeeded in many things. More
important - many people love and respect me. I am a psychologist.
And I wanted to know the basic motive of my activity. I understood
what is was and it amused me. It turned out to be that I needed astrology
to understand what kind of man my husband was and only after that
to understand myself. As for psychology, I needed it to know how I
could make my husband love me and stay with me, and how I could do
all that. I am very enthusiastic person. I looked inside me a lot
of times. I saw that I am that kind of woman who can be happy only
in love. The work, especially a good work, is interesting, of course.
But the human happiness is very simple. The human happiness lives
in feelings.
I
am a woman and I want to be weak. I can feel myself a woman only with
a strong, initiative and responsible man. There is less than 10% of
men of that kind in Russia. Accidentally I have several clients who
are married to Americans and Europeans. They tell me that almost all
men whom I am looking for live in other countries. My clients tell
me that by cultural tradition those men treat a woman and a family
much more better than Russian men do. If I found my happiness in Russia,
I would not go anywhere else. But I will become an old woman by the
time when men of my dreams grow up in Russia. When Moses took the
Jews out of Egypt, he led them through the desert for forty years.
Our nation have been wandering in the desert for ten years already,
so there is only thirty years left.
I don't ask any
special from life. I just want to live and to love now. I want to
have a deserving man. I want to cook, to housekeep, to decorate a
small family world. And I want...a lot of sex with a constant and
loving partner. I dream about making happy a man who will give me
the possibility of being a weak woman. I want a man who will court
me, who will give me a hand, who will help me to put on my coat, who
will pass me first through the doors. I would be happy to live with
a man to whom I could give the duty of being responsible and making
decisions. How do I want to live after marriage? Not to work for several
years, but to take care of the family, to live for my husband, children,
home. A little bit of traveling, art, religion, entertainment and
sports. And none serious career at all, which can ruin a family's
equilibrium. Development and diversity, which I like so much, are
possible without heavy external activity. It's simple romantic and
absolutely unoriginal.
And now some information
about me in short. My name is Elena. I live in Togliatti,
Russia. I am divorced. I am 38. My height is 158 cm. My weight is
53 kg. I have a brown hair and green eyes. I have a daughter of 16
y.o. I have several higher educations. I don't smoke. I drink lightly
at social gathering. I never took drugs. Here is how I could describe
myself: sensual, caring, sincere, attentive, loving, sexy, considerate
and feminine woman. Home is important for me, I am family-oriented.
I want to love and to be loved. To my mind, respect and understanding
are very important in relations between a man and a woman. As for
my leisure, I like nature, reading, traveling, animals, dancing, communications,
art... Here is what I am looking for: white male aged 35-58, social
drinking is OK. I am interested in meeting honest, responsible, dependable,
educated, caring, family-oriented, sincere, attentive, loving, with
a sense of humor, with a quiet character man for marriage. If you
are interested in me you can write me in English (I have a very good
command of it) or French (I have been learning it for quite a while).
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