Dating
for 2006
Copyright (C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12
Simple Rules There
is a new type of dating that grows from inside the old, "dating game"
mode - evolved dating. What
is 'evolved dating'? It
is dating for people who KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. In other words, people who
are
aware of the dynamics of men-women relationships, body language, effective
communication, who have
their life together and who understand that there is
more to dating than pick-up lines. Those
people DON'T need the usual dating games, playing hard-to-get etc, etc. Like high-level
sportsmen,
they can spot each other in an instant. Those
people are the ones that cannot be missed in a crowd, who draw all the attention,
even when they are seemingly doing nothing. They
don't lie or use tricks; they are refreshingly honest and straightforward. And
they never feel ashamed or inferior. They
possess calm, relaxed confidence that is as powerful as a nuclear reactor. The
people comment about them, "There is something special about you" or
call it, "a presence". They
simply look you in the eyes, and you start feeling weak at your knees. Your heart
skips a bit and you start feeling dizzy. I have experienced this myself and seen
this effect at work, once I learned how to do it. You
may now start wondering, how to gain such a power? It's
extremely simple, and at the same time it's hard work. How
can it be? Because
doing these things is really simple - but to make oneself doing them, takes commitment
and courage. It's
like giving up smoking - all you need to do is to stop buying your own cigarettes
and borrowing from others. It's really simple. But so many people have been smoking
for many years and complain they cannot give up. (I have NEVER met a smoker who
was over 20 and didn't want to quit!) People
that are on the level of evolved dating are the people who are successful. My
definition of success is:
success is doing what it takes when you know you
must do it. Really
simple. Over the
years I realized that there is really nothing new under the sun, and the simple
things are the ones that work the best. I
have also realized that anyone can develop him or herself to the level of evolved
dating, in as short a period as one year (or less). The
place to start is to STOP seeking approval of others.
This will have an effect
so dramatic, you can see the results in a month time - people will start asking
you what happened and saying you have changed. The
key here:
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU IS *NONE* OF YOUR BUSINESS. Most
people worry all their life what other people will think of them, or what others
will say, etc, etc. It's like
cutting your own wings. You can fly but you refuse
because you are afraid what others may think. You
maybe afraid being the best you can be because you think others can feel uncomfortable
in your company. The truth is, it's exactly the other way around: by allowing
yourself to be the best you can be, you give permission to others to be the best
they can be. Stop
worrying about others. You are the most important person in your life and you
only have so many years to live on this Earth. Make yourself happy and stop taking
responsibility for other people's happiness. Your happiness is your choice. Their
happiness is their choice. As long as they are adults, their happiness is none
of your business. And
stop faking it. You
fake things because you are afraid the others won't like you the way you are.
The truth is, the others are faking themselves just as you do, to please you.
If you are honest, you are allowing them to be honest, too. This
is what evolved dating is about, and this is why those people are so powerfully
confident: they don't fake it. They simply ARE. They don't seek your approval
and they don't expect you to seek theirs. Most
people try to give themselves to other people.
People that are on the level
of evolved dating give you the gift of being YOURSELF. You don't have to fake
it with them. You
can reach the level of evolved dating, too. When
do you want to start?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena
Solomon is a dating coach. Her
latest book "12
Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading
ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It is a textbook
how to bring your love life to the level of evolved dating. This book shows you
EXACTLY how you can develop yourself into a self-confident and happy person who
attracts people naturally. Go
here:
http://www.12SimpleRules.com/
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